Online Trolls Need to be Stopped…Here’s Why

Online Trolls Need to be Stopped…Here’s Why

I have to admit I am not a fan of Love Island as a show, it isn’t my cup of tea at all. That said, I am aware of the show and was aware of Caroline Flack as the host of it.

 

To hear she has taken her own life age 40 is just awful, and on the back of hearing about my friend Kieran a couple of weeks ago this has really affected me.

 

When will something be done to stop people writing and spouting off pure vitriol online at others? When will something be done to stop these awful people who think it is perfectly acceptable to write words to others that are cruel, damaging and in the majority of cases absolutely untrue? When will we all stand up and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?

 

I have been subjected to the most vile abuse online, including comments that are completely untrue about me, so I know what I’m talking about. I know how soul destroying it is, and believe me I also felt like I no longer wanted to be here as a result, but I rose above the comments from the online trolls, as hard as it was to do. The line in the song “Cleaning Out My Closet” by Eminem is particularly true for me, “Have you ever been hated or discriminated against, I have…I’ve been protested and demonstrated against.”

 

In the culture of “celebrity” that we live in today, the media seems to think it is perfectly acceptable to write whatever they like about people, and this applies to anyone who dares to put their head above the paraphet even a tiny bit to raise awareness of something that is important to them. The moment someone does that, they are considered “fair game” by the press in a bid for them to get more clicks, likes and most importantly – more money and more profit. In turn, opening up comments to the general public on online articles has created a whole new can of worms whereby people think they can act as judge, jury and executioner and that there will be no consequences whatsoever of their actions when they post negative, harmful, untrue and nasty comments about someone online. Unfortunately, there ARE consequences – as the passing of Caroline Flack has clearly shown.

 

 

Something MUST be done to stop this kind of online abuse. I would disable and ban any commenting on newspaper websites for a start – you only have to look at the Daily Mail online to see the level of nastiness that people think is perfectly acceptable to write with no consequences for what they write and their actions. But there are consequences and casualties – Caroline Flack being one of the latest ones. And the likes of the Daily Mail Online and The Sun does NOTHING to police these disgusting comments by members of the general public. Would these people say the things they say online to someone’s face? I surely don’t think so!

 

How many more deaths have to happen before people start thinking more about the consquences of their actions when posting vile and abusive comments online to others? What can be done to stop this kind of vile abuse online ? I don’t know what the answer is, as policing everything online would take such a huge amount of resources. Everyone has the right to express their opinion, but they do NOT have the right to be nasty and abusive. What a sorry state the world has become today.

 

Please, if you are reading this, think before you type. Please be kind. Please STOP before you post something to someone and think about how you would feel if you received the words you are about to post.

 

Kindness should prevail….always.

#RIPCarolineFlack

Lisa Ventura Finalist in the “Inspiration Award” Category in the 2020 Network Computing Security Awards

Lisa Ventura Finalist in the “Inspiration Award” Category in the 2020 Network Computing Security Awards

Lisa Ventura is proud, humbled and honoured to announce that she has been named a finalist in the “Inspiration Award” category in this year’s Network Computing Security Awards.

The winners of this prestigious set of awards will be announced on Thursday 2 April 2020 at a special ceremony and gala dinner at the Leonardo Royal Hotel, London City.

The evening starts with a drinks reception and is followed by dinner, entertainment and the presentation of the awards.

The full list of contenders for the “Contribution to Cyber Security” category are shown below:

Marc Benioff                           Salesforce.com
Leanne Bonner-Cooke            E-bate
Paul Eccleston                        Nuvias
Carrie Goetz                            StrategITcom
Marcin Kleczynski                  Malwarebytes
Ian Moyse                                Natterbox
Andrew Stevens                       CNet Training
Lisa Ventura                            UK Cyber Security Association

The winners will be decided by the number of votes they receive, and Lisa needs your votes please in order to have a chance of winning.

The link to vote is http://www.networkcomputingawards.co.uk/ and Lisa would really appreciate it if you could please take a bit of time to vote for her.

For more information about the awards please visit http://www.networkcomputingawards.co.uk/

The Rise of the Cyber Women Book Release: Thank You

The Rise of the Cyber Women Book Release: Thank You

I want to send a very big thank you to each and every one of you for your messages and comments in support of my forthcoming book “The Rise of the Cyber Women” which will be released soon. It seems to have resonated with so many of you, and I am really enjoying working on the book and compiling it.

If you have sent me a message or posted a comment on my posts about the book, please forgive me if I can’t get to every one of you personally. I didn’t anticipate the strong interest the book would have, and I’m currently supporting my father following his shock diagnosis of CASPR2-antibody encephalitis and trying to get him in front of the right specialists and on the right treatment for his condition. Please know that every message and every comment in support of “The Rise of the Cyber Women” means a lot to me and given the interest in it I’ve got thoughts/ideas for similar books in other areas….so watch this space!

I’m currently heavily into editing and proofreading with the book, and I’ll post further updates about it in the coming weeks. Once again, thank you all so very much 😊

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay…..

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay…..

Yesterday morning I happened to spot a post on Facebook about a chap I met back when I founded the Worcestershire Literary Festival and who I knew from the Worcester Writers’ Circle, Kieran Davis. He had apparently gone missing on Monday, and no-one had heard from him. I shared the post to my Facebook in case anyone had seen him or had any news as to his whereabouts, but I had a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. It turned out that feeling was correct – Kieran had passed away – https://www.worcesternews.co.uk/news/18209149.brother-missing-worcester-man-says-died/

I was so shocked and stunned when I heard the news, and I still can’t believe he has gone.

When I lost my much loved and much wanted son Frankie in 2013 to stillbirth Kieran messaged me often on Facebook to check how I was doing, and he helped me as I went through the worst time of my life. He sent me funny poems “to make me smile and laugh” and told me that I would smile and laugh again one day…and he was right. I will never, ever forget that.

Kieran was an extremely talented writer and poet, and always made everyone laugh. I wish I had just a tiny bit of his writing talent. His “Baldy Poems” were hilarious, and his humour was infectious. He always made me smile and laugh, and a light has gone out of the world with his passing. I can’t even imagine what his family are going through right now, and my thoughts and prayers are with them all.

Today, as I try to process what has happened to Kieran, I’ve got this to say to you all and to anyone who is struggling.

Whether you are male, female, or however you identify yourself, but I say this especially to men….it is okay to NOT be okay. It is okay to admit that you are struggling, that you need help, that you need someone to talk to.

I’ve been there where I have felt like the only way out is to not be here anymore. I have honestly thought about what the best way would be to leave this earth. I couldn’t see past the pain I was feeling inside and felt that everyone around me would be much better off without me, and that everyone’s life would be better if I simply didn’t exist.

Somehow, thanks to talking and to my amazing husband, family and friends, and thanks to having counselling, I saw past the pain. I saw a future. I saw that I was wrong about everyone being better off without me. I realised that they would be better off WITH me. I realised that I matter, and that life is worth living.

Men especially are particularly vulnerable given that they are brought up to not show their feelings, to never cry, to have a “stiff upper lip” and just get on with things, no matter how much they are struggling and hurting inside. Sadly it is too late for Kieran, but I don’t want it to be too late for anyone else I know.

Please please…..if you are struggling and you need to talk to someone…contact me. My messenger is always open and I’m always happy to listen. None of you need to feel that you are suffering in silence or suffering alone, even if you feel like you are alone.

I promise you this. You are NOT alone. People care….I care. Talk to me, talk to anyone. Don’t keep things to yourself. Don’t suffer in silence….ever.

#ItsGoodToTalk ❤️❤️ 

The Rise of the Cyber Women Book – Coming Soon

The Rise of the Cyber Women Book – Coming Soon

I’m delighted to announce that my book “The Rise of the Cyber Woman” will be released soon via Kindle Direct Publishing (formerly Amazon Createspace).  Those of you who will be included in the book have been notified via email.

I’ve been overwhelmed at the amount of interest the book has received and honoured that so many amazing women in cyber security have submitted chapters for inclusion in the book. I have enjoyed reading all of them immensely and while proofreading and editing the book one thing is clear. Even though women are often put off by pursuing careers in cyber security and technology, the ones that are in the industry have achieved great things despite often having a non-linear path into cyber security and technology, and they have overcome great challenges to get to where they are today.

I hope “The Rise of the Cyber Women” will inspire other women to enter the cyber security and technology industries and consider it as a viable career path. Much still needs to be done to encourage women to take up careers in cyber security and technology, and while great strides are being made, the more that is done to encourage other women into the industry, the better.

“The Rise of the Cyber Women” – released soon via Kindle Direct Publishing.